Living Paycheck to Credit card to Paycheck

Jul 242008

Don’t get me started on the treadmill that was my (mis)management of my monthly Paycheck. Ok I’m not as bad at it now as I was about five years ago. Five years ago I was living Paycheck to Paycheck, heavily in debt and I was not coping well at all. I had let too many small things slide and I was paying the price – both financially and emotionally.

Every month I was using nearly all of my overdraft facility – sometimes I would even go over my overdraft facility and incur heavy fees. To avoid any embarrassing situations I would transfer funds from my credit card to my bank account so that I could meet my bills. I was paying my bills and meeting my obligations but it was a serious struggle.

Day to day living expenses were met with credit cards. On the 28th of each month I would receive my salary into my bank account. The amount of my salary almost always matched my overdraft. I would go to my bank account and see a balance of almost zero in my account on the same day that I got paid. Sometimes the balance on the day I got paid would be negative. For those of you who have experienced this you know how depressing it can be.

My work began to suffer. Now most logical people would think that my work should improve as I needed to have a job to pay my bills. The better I became at my job the more I would get paid and the sooner I would get out of this financial hell – right? Nope, not for me, I began to seriously resent my job and the people I worked with. I began to resent the fact that I was trapped and that I should be paid more and if I was paid more then all my financial problems would disappear.

The ironic thing is that I was relatively well paid and that the people I worked with were for the most part very nice and pleasant. There were plenty of opportunities for promotion and travel but I didn’t want any of it. I was just so focused on obsessing about how unfair the whole thing was.

Little did I know that I was digging a deeper and deeper hole for myself with this attitude. I was getting more and more frustrated with work and my financial situation and in turn this made me angry. I was angry at the world and for a while I was not the most positive person to be around.

How I got out of this vicious circle

I slowly came to the obvious conclusion that there was one common factor to all my problems and that common factor was ME. This realization took me months of banging my head against the wall, it wasn’t just a sudden ‘a ha’ moment. These things rarely are – no matter what the self help books tell you – it took me time to realize and accept that I was the cause of my problems.

Once I realized that I was causing my problems things became easier. I could now have a direct impact on my situation through my own actions. I was the cause of the problem and I was the only one who could solve it. My anger and energy had been misplaced and I now realized that I had to act fast if I was to make up lost time.

Despite my eagerness to make changes things didn’t start to happen for a further couple of months. The process of changing my financial habits was a very gradual one. I liken the change in habits to an oil supertanker in the ocean trying to turn around. The supertanker is so big that it can take up to 24 hours for it to turnaround. Things happened gradually for me.

I started to stop going out with friends at the weekend. Usually we’d go to a bar one or two nights a week and then on to a club. I first reduced this to once every two weeks and the eventually to once a month. This was one of the major contributing factors to me getting control on my finances. I was wasting way too much money partying and all I had to show for it was a sore head and empty pockets.

I did lose a few friends as a result of my reduced social activity but I now think they weren’t real friends to begin with. If you were to analyse my fight against my overdraft I suppose these friends would come under the category of collateral damage.

Another thing I did was that I brown bagged my lunch for maybe three out of the five working days in the week. This wasn’t very glamorous and I did receive a bit of stick from my work colleagues but that just made me more determined.

At work, instead of trying to fight everything and go against the flow I simply decided to go with the flow. Whatever happened at work happened. My work was not me and didn’t define me as a person – it was something I did to pay the bills. A bit short-sighted I agree and my long term career prospects might have suffered but I don’t think they suffered as much as they would have had I stayed in the negative/angry mode of thinking.

Eventually my attitude to my work softened and it became a lot more pleasant than I thought possible. I left that job a few years later for another but it was on the best of terms.

I didn’t go for a radical financial overhaul. I was eager to change but I don’t think I would have stuck to it for very long. I did things slowly. Gradually I began to notice a difference in my bank balance on the day I got paid. My bank balance was staying positive for longer and longer each month. It was a strange but refreshing feeling to reach the middle of the month and still have money in my bank account and not to be overdrawn.

The things I learnt.

The most important thing that I learnt was that it takes time to make changes. No matter what the gurus say – change takes time – don’t beat on yourself if you haven’t solved all your financial problems in six months.

The second thing I learnt is that you have to be realistic. You can’t draw up a plan that expects you to make major sacrifices straightaway. Can you really stop something like smoking overnight? Some people can but as I mentioned above change takes time. You need to factor this into any plans you make.

Finally another major thing I learnt from my living Paycheck to Paycheck is that the unexpected happens. You can’t plan for everything but you can counter the effects of any unexpected expenses by putting a little money away each month into an emergency fund. Start the emergency fund as soon as possible – it might delay you getting out of debt for a few months but it offers a safeguard against falling further into debt.

Living Paycheck to Paycheck is a very unpleasant situation to be in. By the time you notice there is a problem it is nearly too late. The overdraft facility just crept up on me while I was sleep walking through my finances. It was an easy mistake to make but a costly one nonetheless.

Saving while in debt – does it make sense?

Jun 252008

Saving while in debt seems to be a bit of a contradiction. If you are in debt then why should you save? Shouldn’t every last cent be going towards paying off your debt? Ah you must mean the emergency fund? Right? That fund that all the financial gurus recommend you have. Well the thing is that I’ve read a couple of articles recently that say you should not bother having an emergency fund and that all the money that you would have saved should go towards paying down your debt.

I disagree.

The emergency fund seems to be one of those worn out clichés that you hear about every time that you pick up a book on Personal finance and debt management. Its used so often that I feel it has become part of some text book response when some one is in debt. Very few commentators seem to go into much detail as to the true importance of the emergency fund and as a result people probably don’t put as much importance on it as they should.

Controlling your personal finances is a lot like playing a strategy game like chess. Chess is a game of strategy whereby you use various strategies and moves to defeat your opponent. One of the key things about chess is that you always have to leave different strategies open to you. You shouldn’t close too many options off by losing strategic pieces too soon into the game. When you are controlling your personal finances you have to employ various strategies to reduce your debt. An emergency fund is one of those strategies.

If you were to put all your money against your debt you would be limiting your options, limiting your strategies.

The main point that the authors who advocated putting all your money against your debt were making was related to the interest difference. If you have a high interest debt such as a credit card debt at say 17.5% but you only actually receive 5% interest on your savings then it is effectively costing you money to have savings because you are paying a higher interest rate on your credit card debt for longer than necessary. On a pure math basis then this makes perfect sense.

When you are in debt pure math and logic doesn’t always win the day.

That crazy little thing called psychology plays a huge part in controlling your finances and your emergency fund is no different. From a financial payoff point of view having an emergency fund is not optimal. However from a psychology point of view having an emergency fund is crucial.

As with the game of chess, it is important that you always have something in reserve when it comes to your finances. Having an emergency fund affords you some comfort that should some emergency arise that you are not going back into debt and in the wrong direction to tackle it. This provides a great psychological boost as it allows you to draw strength from the fact for the first time probably in a long time that you have not had to rely on your plastic to get you out of a tight corner. This can be empowering.

Take it a step further. When you see your emergency fund grow along side your debt shrinking you can’t help but get more motivated. The sense that you are gaining control of your finances can be immense. For most people this spurs them on to further action.

The other key thing I disagree with when it comes to not having an emergency fund is access to cash if there is an emergency. Imagine that you have no emergency fund but you have put all your available funds against paying down your debt. Then an emergency happens and you need cash fast. Where do you go for it? Borrow on your credit card? Ok it is an option but you are going back to square one, the same with a loan or and overdraft. They all lead you back to a place you do not want to be. In some case as soon as you have paid off your debts these avenues of raising cash may be closed off to you. This is of key importance if you decide not to have an emergency fund.

Bad things happen to good people

I’m not advising you whether or not you should have an emergency fund – this is something that you will have to decide yourself based on your own personal circumstances. However the one thing I will ask you is this. How often in the last three years have you found yourself in a tight spot when it came to money? How did you manage to get out of that tight spot? More borrowing?

I hate to say it but bad things happen to good people. The more financially prepared you are to respond to such emergencies the less of an impact the emergency will have. As with chess, financial management is all about strategies and options. It is up to you to make sure you have plenty of options available to you. For me an emergency fund along with adequate insurance is one of the best ways to prepare.

Where is my money? Clarity is the key

May 122008

Picture the scene. It’s the end of the month and you’re about to get paid, before you do you check your bank balance and you realize that you didn’t spend as much as you did last month and that you have $600 left in your account. You smile. Tomorrow you will get paid. In the following week your mortgage, your phone bill, your electricity bill and your retirement savings will all leave your account. The following day a large sum of money will leave your account and be transferred to your savings account. After all you are saving for a new entertainment system. It’s your reward for all the hard work you have been putting in. That leaves you with plenty to live on for the month.

Ok – back to reality. The existing scene probably goes a little more like this. It’s coming to the end of the month. You’re about to get paid. You go to check your bank balance and it is in overdraft and you are touching your overdraft limit – not much room to move. You cringe. Tomorrow you will get paid which will just about cover your overdraft. The following day your mortgage will come out putting you straight back into an overdraft position. You will delay paying your phone and electricity bill until as long as possible. You’re not trying to scam anyone but you just don’t have the spare cash. You have stopped making payments to your retirement fund – sorry I can’t afford them. Savings you ask – what are savings?

There is a vast gulf between the two scenarios outlined above. When you picture the first scene you can almost feel the mental clarity of the situation. Everything is taken care of and there is enough money to pay all the bills. There is almost a sense of joy as the reward of the entertainment system is on offer. You look forward to the future because you know it will be prosperous.

When you picture the second scene your thoughts become muddled and the level of stress you feel increases. You begin to feel anxious. That dreaded look at your bank balance. The sinking feeling you get when you know that in order to make ends meet that you will have to draw down cash on your credit card. You dread the future because you can see no end in sight and you feel like you are trying to plug a hole in the dam with you finger. The future looks bleak.

These two scenarios are on opposite ends of the same spectrum. The question you have to ask yourself is whereabouts on this spectrum does your existing financial situation put you. Are you a stress free financial wiz? Then fantastic – well done!

If on the other hand you are like the vast majority of us and your feelings about your financial situation vary from bad to very bad then take comfort in the fact that you are not alone.

Don’t use the fact that you are in a similar situation to most people as justification for inaction. Fine if you make the conscious choice that you are happy to continue existing like this then no problem that is your choice. But if you want to change it and have been putting it off by using the rationalisation that we are all in this together and that you are afforded some sort of camaraderie then I ask you to question your decision. That to me smacks of peer pressure of the most insidious kind.

Get real about the choices that are available to you. At any moment in time you can simple say to yourself ‘No more’. You can cut that credit card up and downsize your car.

You need to be clear about why you are doing these things. You need to realise that you want to move from a place of pain and stress to a place of action and direction. By action and direction I mean that you are using your pain and stress to propel yourself to take action in the right direction and that direction should always be towards bettering your financial situation.

Accounting for where every cent goes is the first and probably the most important action you can take. If you are already in debt then this type of thing will be hard at first but realise that in a bizarre way it can be fun and after a while it becomes very empowering. The satisfaction you get from knowing that you are gaining control – however slowly – over your finances can be compelling. You need to realise that there are small things you can do that that will have a big impact on your financial situation. The great thing is that the majority of these things won’t cost you a cent as it’s a case of cutting out instead of adding more.

To fire your engines and get you moving in the right direction I want you to go back to the two scenarios outlined above in the first two paragraphs. I want you to really visualize them. Make them real in your mind. Now which scenario do you want to make real? If you want the first scenario to be your future then keep focusing on it. Use this scenario as a baseline for the financial future you would like. Every time you begin to think about your current financial situation change the focus of your thoughts by thinking about how you want your financial situation to be and how you are taking small actions to achieve it. Always reaffirm your dedication to achieving the financial situation that you want. It may take six months or it may take six years the point is that you need to always keep yourself moving in the right direction.

Shopping – your drug of choice?

May 052008

I’m just now recovering from what the ‘experts’ would call cold turkey. Yesterday I went to the local mall to buy some books that I had been meaning to buy online but couldn’t face the wait. The bookstore I went to is huge. It is spread across three floors. It is what I imagine walking in to Amazon.com’s warehouse would be like.

It took me a little while to find the section that the books I was after were located. Once I found the section I had a very enjoyable time looking at numerous different books before I found the books I was looking for. There is nothing like the smell of new books. I don’t know what it is but the newness of the books was something to behold. If I am honest I got a little intoxicated on that smell and off I went and bought a few additional books that I originally had no intention of buying.

The thing is I had only brought enough cash on me for the original two books but now I had five books that I wanted to buy. What did I do? Leave the three additional books back on the shelf? Hell no! I whipped out my credit card and bought the lot on credit.

As I was walking out of the bookstore and through the mall a strange sensation came over me. It was like a pleasant warm fuzzy feeling. The best way I can best describe it is that it was similar to the feeling I get when I drink a nice coffee. It’s that relaxed warm feeling. You’re almost without a care in the world. To be honest I was a little curious as to why my mood had suddenly lifted.

The only thing I could logically put it down to was the fact that I had just bought some nice new shiny books and I was really looking forward to getting home to start reading them. As I walked through the mall to the car park I began to look at the people around me. Did they notice that I had a spring in my step? Or more interestingly could I tell who was getting high from shopping? Here’s the best part – it looked like there was a lot of people getting high. It wasn’t just the stereotypical women with their ten bags of shopping that seemed to be getting a rush but men also – myself included.

From high to low

How long did the high last? Well to be honest I don’t think I got value for money for this high. Between the time I left the store and got home was about twenty five minutes. When I got home and took out the books to look at I felt deflated. I realised that one of the books was not what I wanted at all. I don’t know how or why I even picked it up. Not only that but I felt guilty that I had broken one of my cardinal rules about buying discretionary items with my credit card. It just kept getting worse.

This experience got me thinking about the whole psychology of shopping and how things are designed to trip us up and how this causes us to compound our debt until we are in trouble.

A huge industry exists to exploit and manipulate the consumer. Advertising agencies hire the best and the brightest minds to help them come up with ways that they can separate you from your money. It is scary the lengths that companies go to. When you enter a shopping mall you have to realise that nothing is random. Every single thing from the layout to the colors of the walls to the music that is played are all designed to make you want to shop more. No I’m not some paranoid anti-capitalist, far from it but what I am is concerned about the pain this shopping hypnotism causes.

How many people do you know that ‘shop til they drop’ and put it all on plastic only to realise that they did not need the stuff that they have bought? Have you done it? I did it yesterday! I have heard some horror stories about people who suffer from what can only be called an addiction to shopping. They buy stuff and bring it home but don’t even take it out of the packaging. The amount of debt they accumulate from this behaviour is frightening.

What to do?

If you suspect that you suffer from an addiction to shopping then please get help. I know there is almost a kind of cool that comes with the saying “Oh I’m addicted to shopping, I just love the winter sales” this holds true especially for women. In reality there is nothing cool about being up to your eyeballs in debt.

Short of getting professional help I suggest a policy of avoidance. Avoid the mall. Make it a goal of yours not to visit the mall for three weeks. On top of this reduce the amount of time that you spend watching TV. The advertisements on the television are again a not so subtle attempt to get you to part with your cash.

As for me well I’ve decided to leave the credit card at home the next time I go to the mall. At least that way while I may be tempted I can’t do anything about it. In the long run I should save myself a lot of grief. That said I think you will need to ‘watch this space’.

Debt Management Budgets – A waste of time?

Feb 032008

How often have you heard that the first thing you need to do in Debt management is to make a budget? I don’t necessarily agree. In fact in a lot of cases creating a debt management budget can be a complete waste of time.

So you want to tackle your debts. Great – this is a fantastic step forward in that you acknowledge that there is a problem.

For someone who is offering their services as a financial advisor one of the easiest things in the world for them to do is to give you a budget. They have a template budget that they fill in your numbers into. You have ‘X’ income and ‘Y’ Expenses. You have a free cash flow of (X-Y) that you can put towards paying off your debts. Then they go on to give you a money saving tip sheet, The tip sheet includes things like – shop around for the best offer, rent out a room; file your taxes on time etc. This is all very commendable stuff and indeed some of it may prove to be useful but there is one fundamental problem with this whole process. That problem is YOU!

The core of the problem is that you are not a robot. If you were then that budget and tip sheet would work amazingly well if you had a computer program for a brain. All the budget rules and money saving tips could be programme into your brain. If this were the case your debt problem would solve itself in a matter of time. Your debt problem would have been caused by the result of faulty programming.

The thing is you are human. Your logic is ruled by your emotion and it is not possible to change your debt situation without changing your emotions. You see if it were simply a case of dishing out Budgets and Tip sheets to everyone then there would be no debt problems. The emotions people attach to money can be crazy – and I’m not excluding myself here, money is the root of all evil, to go after money is to be greedy, greed is good etc.

With such crazy and widely different views on money is it any wonder that people have confusing and conflicting emotions when it comes to money? Now apply this to you debt situation. How are you supposed to move in the direction of your goal of financial freedom when all this time you have been accumulating debt? There is no simple switch that can change your course overnight. When it comes to debt it doesn’t work that way and no amount of fancy budgets are going to change that.

So how do you do it?

To make the budget effective you need to change how you relate to money. Up to this point you may have had a ‘live for the moment’ attitude but have now realised that this is not sustainable from a long-term perspective. The banks usually catch up with you.

To change your attitude towards money you need to change the way you think about it. The big danger is that if you let your debts take over every thought that you have you will turn what is essentially an inanimate object – money – into something that has a life of its own and is about to take control of your life. Okay the fact that you are reading this article indicates that debt has become such a significant part of your life that you felt compelled to search for information about it on the internet. This is a good and bad thing, bad in that your debt is at such a stage but good because it shows that you are willing to take action – however small – to rectify the problem.

You have got to remember you are not going to change the spending habits of a lifetime over night. Before your budget will ever become effective you need to change. How do you change? One of the simplest and most effective ways to change how you relate to money is to use NLP.

NLP is short for Neuro-linguistic programming. It consists of a number of different psychological techniques that allow you to shape your attitudes and beliefs about anything. It is this flexibility that will allow you to use it to change your attitude towards money. NLP is just one of a number of techniques you can use. The time you spend researching how to change your attitudes and beliefs about money will pay serious dividends in the years to come.

The alternative to not changing your attitude towards money goes something like this.

You have debts that you need to repay. You have ignored them until now but the pressure from your creditors has become so intense that you can not afford to ignore them any longer. Faced with some tough decisions – either go bankrupt or somehow raise the funds to pay off your debt. You manage to raise the funds to repay your debts you either consolidate your debts or borrow from a family member or sell your car.

Problem solved or so you think. The real problem began with the spending habits that you have developed over the years and these spending habits are going to be hard to control once you think the debt danger has passed.

The only long-term viable solution is to get at the root of your debt problem which is to tackle your attitude towards money and your spending habits. If you combine a determination on your part to tackle your attitude towards money with a good workable budget then is no reason why you will not succeed in clearing your debts for good.

So when you decide to make a change and tackle your debts the best approach is going to be a two pronged attack. The first prong is that you are going to research as much as possible about NLP and techniques that change your beliefs on the internet. The second prong is going to be that you research how to create the best budget possible for your situation and also you compile a list of money saving tips that will apply to your situation.

So in answer to the question ‘Are Debt management budgets a waste of time?’ the answer is No. However, for them to be really effective they need to be backed up with a change in attitude of the person who is using them.

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