Reading this you could be forgiven for thinking that I am some sort of holier than thou debt management wannabe guru. I apologize if I come across that way. I am passionate about Personal Finance and helping people to get out of debt. It’s just the way I am. It’s my dirty little secret.

The thing is that I am far from perfect when it comes to my own financial state of affairs. My financial health and net worth would resemble more the trajectory of a rollercoaster ride than a NASA rocket. Instead of my financial situation improving in a straight upward line, it goes up and down and down and down then maybe up.

I don’t think I’m alone in this experience. I have had so many financial highs and lows that I’ve really lost count. I think it is this experience that puts me in a better position to help others with what they might be going through. I still have a lot to learn though and I’m not afraid to admit it.

Back to basics

Recently I’ve become a little lazy with my own financial affairs. I just kept putting things off until there were problems that urgently needed to be solved. I did feel like a bit of a hypocrite writing about debt management when at the same time my own affairs were sliding, but I am now admitting responsibility for my mistakes and I am looking to fix them fast.

The problems that I have been having recently are simply caused by nothing more sinister than overblown day to day expenditure. Ok I did get hit with an expensive car repair bill but apart from that it has been the small daily things that have been hitting me hard.

Debt from a thousand cuts

I’ve been on the go a lot lately and as a result I have tended to eat out quite a bit, nowhere expensive just regular places. I might eat out for lunch and then maybe dinner depending on where I am. As a result these expenses are really starting to bite. I have been living like this for about 2/3 months and have been quite busy.

The net result is that my budget is shot to pieces.

The obvious problem is that my lifestyle hasn’t helped. The fact that I was on the go a lot and not getting home until late meant that I was too tired to cook. In the evenings I would simply buy ready made meals or get takeout.

Not good for my health or my wallet and I knew that. The point I am trying to make is that it is so easy to slip into a bad routine and then wake up one day with a gaping hole in your finances. This is what happened to me.

For me now it is a case of going back to basics.

What this means is a complete scaling back of my daily expenditure. For a while I was really good at keeping track of my daily expenditure. I would keep all the receipts and record how much I spent at the end of the day. Then after a couple of weeks of doing this I would analyze where I was spending the most and where I could cut down.

I found this to be an excellent way to manage my expenses. The only thing was that there was a lot of effort involved. It was hard work keeping up to date on all the small daily expenses. Make no mistake it is tedious hard work keeping track of all your daily expenses. I have tried to do this numerous times and failed at it numerous times.

I now realize that the fundamental key to long term debt freedom is managing your daily discretionary expenditure i.e. the money you spend on food, newspapers, magazines, coffees etc everyday. If you can contain these expenses then you will eventually break the back of your debt problem.

Look after the pennies

The saying “look after your pennies and the pounds will look after themselves” holds a lot of truth. By building up the discipline to manage the small and relative insignificant daily expenditure you are laying the foundation for greater financial discipline when it comes to the big expenses. There will be less of a financial bottleneck when you come to pay your bigger expenses.

However, there is a danger of being “Penny wise but Pound foolish”. This is where you are so focused on minding the small expenses that you neglect to look at the bigger picture and your bigger expenses.

There is a call for balance and my hope is that over the coming months – because it will take me months to rectify – that I can find that balance between looking after my small daily expenses while at the same time keeping an eye on the bigger picture.

The essence of any debt help program is that it is realistic. The debt program needs to be tailored to the individual’s situation in order for it to be of any help. There are many template debt programs out there that will apply standard rules to any given situation. Cut back spending pay off credit card debt first etc. In my mind this is like trying to fit a square plug into a round hole. The standard debt programs have things in them that will not apply to everyone and there are things missing in them that some people may need. For example a retired person in debt is going to have different priorities than a twenty five year old in debt.

What’s the alternative to using the standard debt programs? The ideal situation is where a debt help program is tailored to the individual, their resources and to their needs. In most cases you are going to have to pay for someone to tailor a debt program to your specific needs. The only other alternative is if you create your own debt help program to your own specific needs.

But I don’t know anything about debt management.

Ok – but what you should be saying is ‘Where can I learn more about debt help programs?

The point is that if you really want to tackle your debt problems then you need to take charge of where you get your information from and how you apply that information.

With standard debt help programs the individual is told exactly what to do. Now most people don’t like being told what to do – it reminds them too much of school. Telling people what to do does not solve the problem. In the short term there may be relief as the people begin to follow the program but long term the problems with debt tend to persist.

Give a man a fish or teach a man how to fish

The old saying of ‘Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day, teach a man how to fish and you feed him for a lifetime’ holds particularly true in relation to debt programs. The saying could be rewritten along the lines of ‘Give a person a debt relief program and you give them debt relief for a day, teach a person how to build a debt relief program and you give them debt relief for a lifetime’.

By simply trying to research and build your own debt program you will gain an insight into how money really works. You will discover ways of managing the money that you have and paying off your debt in a manner that is suited to your situation. You’ll gain valuable skills in how to create and manage budgets. You’ll learn how to be creative with the limited resources you have.

Debt help program that suits you

The reason why a self made debt help program has a much higher chance of success is because you have tailored it to your situation, your needs, your income, your expectations, and your self knowledge.

If you are honest with yourself and try to be as objective as possible with your situation it is possible that you can create a very effective program.

The problem with self made debt programs

Ok I’m not doubting that you are intelligent, not one bit. I know you can research the information on this website and on the internet and combine what you learn into an effective debt program. The problem is that it was you who got you into this debt situation in the first place. You are effectively going to be creating a debt program with a bias towards your existing debt behaviour. You are either going to be too hard on yourself trying to purge the guilt from past overspending or you are going to be too soft on yourself telling yourself that you’ll start this great new debt program next month.

If you can balance the urge to quickly get rid of debt against the urge to go easy on yourself then you have the foundation upon which you can build a good debt program. That foundation needs to be solid. There is no point building the debt program on a foundation of sand. If you are not prepared to go that extra mile and acknowledge the issues that you have with debt then you may as well pay some finance company to manage your debt for you.

In Summary

1. Self made debt programs can be more effective than standard template programs. This is because they are tailored to an individual’s needs.

2. By building the program yourself you gain useful skills that will last you a lifetime and help keep you debt free for life.

3. Be careful to allow for your existing feelings on debt when building the debt program.

In relation to your debts this is probably the most difficult thing that you will have to do. If your debts have become so out of control that you try to ignore them then this will be especially difficult. A lot of the reason why debt can be so intimidating is because we do not have a clear picture, however ugly, of the sum total of our debts. If you want to make changes and begin repaying your debts you need to know exactly what you owe.

The worst thing that you can do – and most people with serious debt do it – is to hide from the problem. Your debt problem will not go away unless you take direct affirmative action. To do this you need to feel empowered to take control before you can start back on the road to financial freedom. In order to put yourself in a position of power you need to know exactly what you are dealing with. You need to take a long hard look at your financial situation.

Don’t know where to start?

This is a very common problem. It’s probably taken you years to get to this point; the Debt by Stealth phenomenon has taken hold of your life. It starts small, a loan here a credit card there and then it grows into an uncontrollable beast. Not knowing where to start can be caused by the feeling of being overwhelmed by the past. The guilt associated with past mistakes and errors in judgements handicap us as we try to make amends in the present.

You need to forget about the past, we are dealing with the here and now. Let’s be clear about one thing there is absolutely no value to be had by worrying about how you came to be in your current financial situation, none whatsoever. If there was value in wallowing in regret then we would all be millionaires.

Forget about the past – we can only deal with the here and now and the actions that we take in the here and now are gonna help make a brighter and richer tomorrow.

Back to the debt list. Take out a pen and paper and start writing. Simply begin writing a list of things that you think you owe money on and the amount you think that you owe. Leave no stone unturned. Be creative!

Here’s an example:

Student loan                                           5000

Credit card                                            11000

Car loan                                                 6400

Phone                                                     200

Electricity                                                300

Cable TV                                                 100

My brother Tim                                       4500

My Mum                                                  320

Back tax                                                1300

Parking fines                                            250

Now for the tough part, for each item on your list find one piece of hard up-to-date information (a bill or statement) that either backs up or contradicts the figure you initially put down.

This exercise serves two purposes. The first one is to give you a reality check. Most people either grossly over estimate or grossly underestimate what they owe. There is no point in kidding yourself – where’s the value in that? In the end it’s you who will pay the price either financially or emotionally or both!

The second purpose is that it forces you to get organised. Once the exercise is completed you will have the latest information in relation to your debts. This can serve as a starting point for your climb out of debt. Here you have a full list, along with back up documentation as to your exact debt situation.

The ugly truth about your debt.

So you owe a fortune? So what? Are you going to let your guilt and fear paralyse you? Are you going to sit there and take a beating from your debts? The simple fact of the matter is this – you managed to get yourself into this situation but you can also manage to get yourself out of this situation. The only way out of this situation is through it.

It’s going to be a very slow process. You have to be in it for the long haul. The goal of freedom from your debts is yours if you want it but you must really want it. The future can go one of two ways for you. A future filled with hope and freedom and excitement as you rise up to the challenge of your debts or a future that is dominated by the dark spectre of your debts, never managing to get out of the cycle of ever increasing debt and eventual bankruptcy. The choice is yours.

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