Life plans instead of debt management plans

One thing that use to get me as I struggled with debt is the idea that all debt management plans seem to be focused on the financial side of life. Duh! I hear you say ‘Of course debt management plans are going to be focused on the financial side of your life’. You see initially I made that mistake too.

For years I would struggle with the one sided nature of the debt management plans that I created or that were created for me. The huge problem with the debt plans was that while they very adequately covered my need to repay debt they offered absolutely no guidance on how I was to live my life on a day to day basis. All that debt management plans ever showed me was a bunch of numbers on a page and a set of targets that needed to be reached.

Now I don’t know about your experiences with debt management plans but in between all those numbers on the plan you have to squeeze in a life somewhere, somehow.

Honestly do they want us to become monks? Live a life of servitude to the banks? Ok we got ourselves into this and we are the only ones that can get us out of it and I wholly accept that. I have written about taking responsibility before but the point I am trying to make is that the vast majority of debt management plans are unrealistic and excessive. People don’t change overnight – old habits die hard.

Why are debt management plans so oppressive?

It primarily depends on who designs them.

If you design your own debt management plan, initially at least you will tend to be over optimistic with what can be achieved. Trust me on this. I have done it over and over again. I start out with what I think is a tough but achievable debt management plan but it suddenly turns into a punitive anti social whip which I use to beat myself if I strayed from it. I never allowed for everything and even when I thought I had been thorough I would miss something. After a couple of weeks on the plan I will slip back into my old routines and habits. I would come away from the whole experience dejected, disillusioned and still in debt.

If someone else creates a debt management plan for you then they tend to be even tougher still. Let’s say for example you decide to use a debt consolidation company. The person on the other end of the phone does not know you and unfortunately probably does not care too much about you as a person. They will see your income and expenses and using the latest debt management software optimize your spending. Needless to say the software will simply take every spare cent you have and put it against your debts not taking into account the softer things in your life like the daily newspaper or the occasional trip to the cinema. No it’s off to live in a cave for you.

What’s the alternative?

I found through hard fought experience that the best debt management plan is the one that incorporates a life plan.

What this basically means is that you cannot and should not create your debt management plan in isolation from your life. By life I mean the elements that make up your day to day living – things like your daily routines and habits, the time you spend and how you spend it with your friends and family, how you relax and unwind, how you have fun.

You have to look at the WHOLE picture of your life when you are creating a debt management plan. There is no point in sitting and hoping that you can stick to some ultra rigid debt management plan that will help you pay off your debts quicker but will mean that you will sacrifice a lot. Don’t get me wrong there WILL have to be sacrifices if you want to get out of debt. There WILL be changes if you are to shake off the shackles of debt. BUT you need to get perspective on the whole process. No debt management plan will succeed unless you make allowances for who you are.

My advice is simply this – don’t push the boat out too far when you are creating your debt management plan. Yes I know you have an urgency to get rid of this horrible debt that has been tormenting you but please be patient. You need to take a measured and realistic approach to it. If that means that it will take an additional year or two longer than you hoped then so be it. The end goal is the same. What you are trying to avoid is the endless start stop cycle that so many people trying to get out of debt get stuck in.

It’s like starting any new venture – you’re going to make mistakes – lots of them. The key thing is to try to do as much preparatory work by educating yourself so that you can try to avoid as many of them as possible. Can you avoid all the mistakes and make a perfect debt management plan? – No chance. You’re going to make mistakes but that’s a good thing. I’m just asking you to try to map out a plan that will help you avoid the main mistakes that people make as outline above.

The end of your debt is nearer than you think you just have to focus your time and energy on it.

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