Delayed gratification versus Instant gratification - A debtor’s choice

Many financial commentators make the point that one of the root causes of the debt epidemic we are now facing is the concept of ‘Instant gratification’. To me instant gratification is simply the ‘I want it and I want it right now!” attitude that seems so common today. The ‘it’ in the statement could be anything from an ice-cream to a nice new car.

If you think about it, the instant gratification culture which we have become so accustomed to has had an obvious negative impact on our financial health. Personal debt is at an all time high and savings is at an all time low as people seek that instant reassuring buzz of buying something new.

In my parent’s generation of the post war years they were thought to save hard for anything that they wanted. Credit was a dirty word and if they truly had their heart set on something they put their heads down and worked towards it – no matter how long it took. They were well versed in the practice of delayed gratification.

Now compare that to the attitude of my generation whose first exposure to the world of work and commerce was during the dotcom boom. We were bombarded with offers of easy credit and advertising that told us if we had an itch then we should scratch it, all for the low monthly payment of $99.

Sure it took two to tango i.e. me and my bank but in my defence (or should I say our defence) – ‘things were different this time’. There was plenty of employment opportunities, interest rates were at an all time low, banks were practically giving money away. Times had never been so good financially for all of us. The opportunities to make money were manifold – internet stocks, rental properties (gee didn’t they both turn out well). You name it and you could make money from it.

What changed between the generations?

To be honest I don’t know. I suppose there were numerous contributing factors. Perhaps my parents didn’t experience the same amount of media exposure as I did when they were growing up. How could they? I’m not even sure if they both had TVs when they were children. I always got the feeling that there was less pressure to conform from a materialistic point of view. Fitting in was less about the type of trainers you wore and more about the sports team you supported.

I find it hard to reconcile the stories that my parents told me about their childhoods and how they related to money as they grew up with my experience of money as I grew up. For me there was always a social pressure to conform by having the latest brand. I think a lot of my peers felt the same. This article ‘Budget for school gear soars to £600’ from The Daily Mail newspaper sums up the situation perfectly. I left school twelve years ago and I was shocked to read this article about the pressures that school kids face today as they try to conform.

Easy credit – the enabler of instant gratification

Before I allow the older generation to take the high moral ground on the whole instant gratification debate I want to point out that credit has never been easier to obtain – ever! I think one of the main reasons my parent’s generation didn’t suffer from instant gratification as bad as my generation is that even if they wanted to buy something there and then very often there was simply no credit available to do so.

Today we have both the means and the method of instant gratification at our disposal.

No longer are we forced to save for something that we wish to buy. If we really want something and we want it fast then generally speaking it is a relatively straightforward task to arrange the financing of it.

But isn’t instant gratification a personal issue?

Yes and no. Yes it is a decision that everyone makes for themselves. You and you alone can only decide if you will buy something now or you will save for it. No in that there is now such a collective culture of instant gratification that it is hard to resist the temptation to succumb. How easy is it to refuse to go on that expensive holiday when all of your friends are going? ‘I don’t have the money’ just doesn’t seem to cut it as an excuse anymore.

Delayed gratification – a long forgotten concept

If instant gratification can be thought of as a buying something straightaway regardless of whether or not you have the funds to do so, then delayed gratification can be thought of as setting yourself a financial goal and then working and saving hard to achieve that goal. The goal could be something simple like buying a new TV or it could be something bigger like saving for a deposit on a house.

What the goal is doesn’t really matter as much as the fact that you have made the choice to work hard before you consume. I’m sure you could simply whack the cost of the TV on to your credit card but with delayed gratification you are waiting until you feel you deserve it.

Delayed gratification – benefits

There are many benefits of delayed gratification.

No more buyer’s remorse

By delaying your consumption of an item and working hard to save the money to buy it you are forcing yourself to decide whether or not you really want it in the first place. Delayed gratification eliminates the buyer’s remorse that so often accompanies impulse spending.

Guilt free enjoyment

This is related to buyer’s remorse. By saving and working hard to allow yourself to fully enjoy the fruits of your labor you do not need to worry about making the payments on the item in question. If you buy a nice flat screen TV for $600 with cash that you saved then you own the TV outright and you don’t have to worry about any nasty surprizes waiting for you in the mail. You can kick back and enjoy.

No more debt

When you adopt an attitude of delayed gratification you are saying no to more debt. You have decided that is enough is enough and from here on in you want to earn the good things in life. No more taking the easy route of instant gratification via your credit card because you and I both know that that route is actually the hard way.

Builds discipline that can be rolled into financial security

Developing the discipline required for delayed gratification takes time but once acquired the attitude of delayed gratification it will serve you well for the rest of your life. By embracing an attitude of delayed gratification you are setting yourself up for financial success. The reason why is because in order to achieve anything big it takes time.

To save and invest for retirement takes time, to save a deposit for a house takes time, to save for your kid’s college education takes time but it is the time element that adds the value. In order for you to best capitalize on the time element you need an attitude of delayed gratification.

Where to start?

Small – always start small. Delaying gratification can be as simple as waiting a couple of extra days before you buy the latest edition of your favorite magazine. Wait. Be conscious about the reasons why you are waiting. Clean your home, bring your lunch to work for a day or two, do something that you think will justify you spending money on the magazine.

Take it from there. Tackle something bigger like saving for a new stereo system. Work some overtime or sell some of your stuff. Wait until you have the physical cash in your hand before you purchase the stereo system. The feeling of achievement is immense.

Now aim bigger still. Say you want to redecorate your home but it will cost a lot. Start saving. Cut your expenses where possible, save any money that you can, give yourself a timeline. Be honest about your progress. With any goal there will be set backs on the path to achieving that goal. The bigger the goal the bigger the set backs will be.

Keeping moving in the right direction, the idea here is to train yourself to become more disciplined in your financial habits. Easy? No way. Necessary? Absolutely.

The great thing about delayed gratification (the few times I’ve tried it) is that when you achieve the goal that you have been aiming for it tastes a lot sweeter than had you just gone out and bought it on credit. Not only are you getting the things that you have been working and saving for you are also getting a huge sense of achievement and satisfaction as a bonus. Sometimes the sense of satisfaction is nearly worth the effort on its own.

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