In Debt? Don’t try to cut everything all at once.

When faced with a person with a debt problem one of the first standard pieces of advice thrown out there is “Cut back on your spending completely”. Sound advice I might add but not always the most appropriate advice. I find that it’s a very easy piece of advice to give “Cut way back on your expenses and everything will be ok” but you already know that this isn’t the case. If it was that easy to do you wouldn’t be reading this article because you would have had no problem cutting back in the first place.

I accept that if someone is in debt then radical action is needed. However telling someone to cut back on expenses is a bit too general. It’s not so much what to cut back on – a simple tally of your monthly bills will tell you that – rather the key thing that I feel is missing is the ‘how’ to cut back element.

From your experience, what happens if you try to cut back everything at once? You go into a state of cold turkey. Your mind gets overwhelmed by this new behaviour. Spending danger lurks around every corner and you get exhausted from trying to keep your mind focused on not spending. But no matter how hard you try and no matter how much you focus on ‘not spending’ your money just seems to run away from you – sometimes at an even faster rate than before.

What causes this? Well there are a couple of things at play in this. The first is that you are focusing on ‘not spending’. When confronted with a spending opportunity the natural response is to say to yourself is something like ‘I must not spend, I must not spend, I must not spend’. However all your brain will process is the doing part of the sentence which is the verb - spend. So all your brain will hear is “Spend, Spend, Spend”.

Ironic I know but studies have shown that how you phrase something is key to changing your behaviour. So what you need to do is to rephrase what you say in relation to your spending. Don’t talk in terms of spending and buying or expenses, talk more using terms like saving, investing, reducing. For example instead of saying “I must not spend” you could rephrase it to something like “I must save more”. The difference is small in terms of the words used but in the long term the difference it makes to you mentally will be very significant.

The second and most important aspect of changing your spending behaviour is the speed at which you do it. This is a tough nut to crack as there are a number of variables at play. How much debt you have will be a factor in intensity of your desire to get a move on and start making cuts. What your current level of spending is now is likely to also have a huge bearing on your ability to make cuts. The more spending you are currently engaged in on a day to day basis the harder it will be for you to make drastic changes.

Slow and steady

The average time needed to change a habit is estimated to be anywhere between 21 and 30 days of repeat behaviour. What this means is that if you want to change a habit you need to spend at least 21 days repeating the new more positive habit – consistently – day after day.

A lot of the time people assume that the habit they need to change is their ‘spending’ habit. This way of thinking is not 100% accurate. A much better way to think about it is that your spending is just the umbrella for a whole host of different habits. If you want to make real progress in your spending then break your spending down into its component habits.

Your spending pattern is probably made up of dozens of habits, each habit feeding into the next while all the time your money is disappearing.

So if your spending is made up of dozens of spending habits then you need to identify them. To help you do this it is simplest to think of your average week and how you incur your spending. For example do you buy a paper with your morning coffee? Do you buy that coffee on the way to work as you stop off for gas? When grocery shopping, do you shop when you are hungry? At the weekends do you simple amble into the local shopping mall just to kill time but have no clear plan about what you need to buy?

Each bad spending habit that you can identify needs to be put down on a list. You then should write down what a positive spending habit would be that would counter the bad spending habits. This will take time and some imagination but it is well worth it. Finally you need to identify the one habit that is doing the most damage to your finances.

Remember slow and steady.

Having identified the one habit that is doing the most damage to your finances you need to resolve to change that habit and that habit alone. Do not try to change more than one habit at a time!!! Focus all your energy on changing that habit. Stick with it for at least 21 consecutive days. Once you are happy that you have changed that habit then move on to the next most expensive habit.

You may have the urge to change a lot of habits at once. This is understandable, once you have made a firm decision to tackle your debt you will want to get moving as fast as possible. Don’t – take your time. The problem with trying to make a raft of changes in one go is that you cannot allocate enough energy to each of them to make them permanent. There is a saying that goes ‘the more hurry the less speed’. I believe this is true for debt management also. If you rush into making a lot of changes you are likely to lose motivation as you don’t see the changes you would have hoped for.

By tackling your biggest spending habit and focusing on it for at least 21 days you will make a lot more progress than if you simply tried to tackle five smaller spending habits at the one time. Don’t try to cut everything all at once. Doing so is simply a recipe for frustration. Don’t be tempted. Focus on one spending habit at a time.